Dear Gay Companion
We have a issue i just can’t determine. I will be from a little nation town and also have for ages been the kind that likes town dudes. I love every thing about them – their swag, the direction they dress, as well as the method they carry on their own.
One i was in the Dollar General Store and met this guy, “Carl, ” from Washington, DC day. Carl explained he had been in the city because he’d been focusing on a building for 2 years. We exchanged figures and two months later Carl calls, and had been telling me about himself. He stated he’s a huge Kanye western fan, really into fashion, and a large soccer fan.
Carl asked when we could chill one evening and I also said yeah. Whenever I surely got to their household we began chatting and then he explained that everyone else he results in thinks he’s gay. My eyes got actually big. I asked, “Why do they believe you’re homosexual? ” He said, “It’s because I’m well-groomed. We look after my own body. I like to dress good and I also like clean things. ” We stated, “Ok. ” Then he asked, “Is that gonna be a nagging issue? ” We stated, “No. ”
That exact same night he explained he hadn’t had intercourse since October and it also had been June. We’d sex and he strikes it through the straight back. I recall hearing that “Down Low” dudes like striking it through the straight back and nothing else. About 30 days or two later on he came across my relative so when quickly as she laid eyes on him she stated he’s gay, without also conversing with him first. When he left my relative asked, “Is he homosexual? ” We said, “No. ”
I like him and he’s very nice. Therefore speak to me personally is he homosexual? –“Small Town Confusion”
Dear “Small Town Confusion, ”
Simply because you’re in a town that is small perhaps not alienated through the globe. Clues are clues, honey. But i know the “Big City” man whom dazzled you together with looks that are good high-fashions, and sweet nothings made you poor in the knees. Girl, we’ve all been there.
Now, on the basis of the information you offered only 1 thing sticks out that produces me go, hmmm, could he be homosexual? It’s that everyone else he comes across thinks he could be. We result from the old college where we now have a saying, “Everyone knows, you. ” Meaning, we have all peeped your card regarding the sex, however you come in denial.
Nevertheless, we re-read your story and I also considered to myself, wait one minute, i understand numerous heterosexual males like your friend. They like Kayne Western. They gown nice, are well-groomed, and care for their health. They are soccer fans. And, on numerous occasions men and women have thought they certainly were homosexual. Awww, the key term, “assume. ”
The thing is, Ms. Small-Town-Confusion, we put guys like your buddy into the group of, He’s Not Gay, But He has got Gay Tendencies. The reason by this might be their mannerisms and actions would immediately make one assume, based entirely on observation, they truly are homosexual. Yet, while you become familiar with these males, have actually discussion, and go out together with them, you find they’re not homosexual, these are generally simply somewhat effeminate. And, maybe it’s in line with the known fact they talk to a lisp, utilize their arms if they talk, carry man-bags, and like being well-groomed. Those usually do not make a person homosexual.
Even taste Kayne West doesn’t equal gay. He makes music that is good. But, then uhm, girl, he is gay if your man is singing in a falsetto voice, songs by, Whitney Houston and Beyonce, and he knows the routine to “Single Ladies.
But, i really do like he had been upfront to you as he said people think he’s homosexual, and asked in the event that you had a challenge along with it. Many guys would run and get away from this issue, rather than share exactly exactly what other people think about their sex. For me it shows he could be more comfortable with whom he’s. And, with himself he wants to know if you are if he is comfortable. And, you him told you had been.